Breaking into the lack of Traditional gestures

Tonight i went out with a guy i know. We went to happy hour for dinner and we get to talking to know each other. After a while, I realize we have a number of things in common and i am thinking wow.. maybe we could date.. i am having a great time. But, then the check comes and i offer my credit card and he lets me split the bill... all of $8 by the way so the idea of money is a non-issue. But i get this feeling.. as if we are not on a date. I no longer feel "attraction" and i feel we are just hanging out and "next" on the dating scene.I lose interest instantaneously. This happens once again in the same night for dessert at another restaurant and again i am over come with... the feeling as if this is not someone to date. ... just to be friends permanently. But the conversation is amazing an d i think he is appealing. I am also noticing that not a single door is opened for me or a compliment on my appearance... what is going on with this man? Am i living in the wrong generation, am i dating the wrong generation?? Maybe cultural... nah he was from my culture... and one year older than me. So the next proposition must be that i am the one who is "different". I have a girlfriend who married a man who went dutch on their first date . But she is American, a far more feminist culture and maybe more forgiving of men.
I need to let go of the idea that my feelings towards men should not be influenced by opening doors, picking up the tab and saying nice things when you made an effort... Its going to be difficult but if i dont want to risk missing out on an opportunity to meet a great person who simply happens to lack these qualities.